Most of my friends and me are using LGBT dating apps to know people, hookup and date. Many online dating and hookup apps claim themselves to be LGBT-friendly. It might be true, but the inclusiveness for LGBTQ group is far stronger than that for transgender people. I heard a lot of talk about “I would never date a transgender”. As a matter of fact, there is only 16%-18% Americans would date transgender people. It’s not hard to believe the number, given by the number of news about transgender violence and suicide rate. Most people are either afraid of transgender people or unwilling to date them, which constitute the major reason why it is so difficult for transgender people to find a date. Although I have get used to the fact, it still feels tough to deal with.
I viewed several most popular dating apps and sites to see which are the most inclusive ones. Most people insist in gender binary, saying you are either male or female. There is no other option. Some dating apps are more inclined to homosexual people other than bisexual, because they only allow users to choose one gender they are interested in, instead of both, while some have multiple choice vary from straight, bisexual to transgender, etc. Among all the general dating apps, tinder is the most inclusive one. However, if you want the easiest, you can always choose a transgender dating app such as Transdr, that is a lgbt dating app specially designed for transgender people and their allies. Find transgender love.
Even though some dating apps have clearly stated there is an option for transgender people, some of them still feel they are obligated to share their gender identity clearly in their personal profile. However, in most circumstances, when you tell your partner that you are a transgender, they would treat you differently in opinion. If you don’t, they would think you are a cheater when they find out. There are only two types of people in the eyes of transgender people: the people who support them and the people who hate them. To be honest, their choices are really limited.
Some transgender people prefer to share the truth about them when they start dating. The reason why they do this is that they don’t want to be violated when they really meet in person. In many cases, when I date, I forget my gender identity until when it gets serious and they end it with some rude words when the truth come out to them. Sometimes, I would be ghosted when I tell them I am a transgender. Although it’s very disappointing to be cut out, it’s safer this way from long term. Don't call them shemales.